The Unshakeable Road to Love (Value Centered Relationships)
The Unshakeable Road to Love (Value Centered Relationships) is based upon Eternal Principles from all world scriptures, including Zen. These tried and true practices guide us to build a foundation in relationships where happiness and well-being are inevitable, and pain, upset and conflict can dissolve on 
the spot.
A radically different approach to psychology, the material offers a completely new perspective on how to experience fulfillment and what is truly needed in relationships. For example, a foundation of this practice is: To Be Happy, You Do Not Have To Be Loved, You Have To Learn What It Means To Be Loving.
The book explores the difference between Real and Counterfeit Love, showing how all our suffering in relationships is due to being caught in the trap of Counterfeit Love. This is a Book of Practice. It is filled with Turning Points, Pillars of Love, Interventions and many enjoyable exercises which show you how to practice these principles daily, in all our relationships.
Written by a psychologist, Interfaith counselor and long term Zen practitioner, the book combines the practices and principles of both East and West including all the ways to make these teachings real in our everyday lives.
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Book Excerpt
We are all treasure hunters, looking for the secret to fulfilling relationships. Usually, we believe the secret lies in finding the right person, acquiring relationship skills, getting our needs met. We all have a deep belief that in order to be happy, we must be loved.
However, despite all efforts, relationships often become a source of conflict and distress. When a partner stops meeting our needs, our so called love often turns into rejection. When our thoughts are primarily absorbed with ourselves, what we are needing and receiving, we live in a prison without bars.
A Completely New Perspective
It is time to offer a completely new perspective on relationships and the road to unshakeable happiness. As we turn to the world’s eternal scriptures, including Zen, we find profound insights, along with powerful forms of healing. However, this fundamental wisdom is seldom practiced in our relationships. That is why we suffer so.
A Radical Alternative
These eternal truths present a radical alternative to the way we function in relationships and what we expect of them. They explore the difference between Real and Counterfeit love and show how all our suffering is due to being caught in the trap of counterfeit love. These principles are Pillars of Love. When they become the foundation for our relationship, they inevitably create well being for all.
For example, a Pillar of Love is: You Not Have To Be Loved To Be Happy, You Have To Learn What It Means To Be Loving. Acting upon this opens enormous possibilities for all. And, instead of being so easily disappointed and upset by others, we view relationships differently. Another fundamental Pillar of Love is, Everyone You Meet Is Your Teacher In What It Means to Love. When we see and act upon that, everything turns around.
This is a Book of Practice which includes insights and simple, direct and life giving exercises and interventions to put into action day by day. And as we do, pain and conflict often disappear on the spot!
About the Author, Dr. Brenda Shoshanna
Psychologist, author, speaker and long term Zen practitioner. Dr Brenda Shoshanna’s work is dedicated to integrating Eastern and Western principles and practice and showing how to make them real in your every day life. Her work opens your mind, lifts your spirit and makes everyday worthwhile.
Along with providing many cutting edge audio books, Brenda also offers two weekly podcasts, Zen 
Wisdom For Your Everyday Life, and Your Best Self.
She is the author of numerous books in the spirituality, zen, mindfulness, psychology and relationship genres. Some of her books include FEARLESS: 7 PRINCIPLES TO PEACE OF MIND, THE ANGER DIET: 30 DAYS TO STRESS FREE LIVING (listed as one of the best books of the year by Spirituality and Health), ZEN PLAY (INSTRUCTIONS ON BECOMING FULLY ALIVE), ZEN AND THE ART OF FALLING IN LOVE, ZEN MIRACLES, (HOW TO FIND PEACE IN AN INSANE WORLD), JUST GRAB THE DUST RAG, (CONFESSIONS OF A DELUDED ZEN STUDENT), and more.
Dr. Shoshanna’s books combine spiritual wisdom with psychological insight and practical advice. She has received wide critical-acclaim for her work with excellent reviews from publications such as Tricycle, Publishers Weekly, Body & Soul, Deepak Chopra, Spirituality and Health and others. She has won the NABE Award for the Best Book of the Year in the Category of Health. Her books have been translated into 18 languages, and she appears frequently on national television, in national print, and in major venues online. Brenda has spoken and taught at many universities and has offered over 500 talks and workshops nationally on all aspects of psychology, spirituality and living life to the full. She also hosted her own radio show on the Gary Null network, which offered her a weekly platform to address a wide range of issues dealing with spirituality and self-help.
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